by Jonathan Cliff

  • Be positive. I don’t care who you are or what you did before, there is always some positive to you leaving. Maybe the positive is in who gets the new opportunity with you leaving, or maybe it’s with the new place you’re leaving for. There is always positive, and it’s your job to find it. Would you want people to speak well of you after you’ve left? Then work hard to speak well of where you’ve been.
  • Walk slowly. A rushed exit is always a bad exit. Now, if you were hurriedly moved along from where you were by someone else; then you need to walk slowly to your next destination. There is no need to hurry. Take the time to make a long walk to your next adventure, taking no short-cuts to get to your dream.
  • Pray. The hardest thing for me was leaving the people and work that I had invested so much time with. You can’t turn that off quickly, and you should actually never turn it off as far as prayer is concerned. Pray for that ongoing building project, pray for the leaders that took your place, pray for the servants that fill your absence, and pray for the investment you made. It’s just smart stewardship, and moving along doesn’t mean you leave it all behind.
  • Be honest with yourself. There are things you need to do differently in your new place and there are things you need to change about yourself. Your experiences where you’ve been are a big part of helping you discover what these things are.
  • Move on. It seems obvious, but there comes a time that you just need to move on. You can’t change the past, you can’t correct mistakes, you can’t influence where you no longer have influence, and you are being called to something new. Find that new something and move on from where you’ve been.

Jonathan Cliff is a huge advocate for families and believes that the family can be God’s primary way of reaching the world that they live in. Jonathan and his wife, Starr, have a full house with two sons, Ryan and Dylan, and one daughter, Lauryn. They have also served as foster parents for many kids over the years.

This post originally appeared here January 7, 2013. Used with permission from the author.